Don't compare. I have a different operating system. I must honor that than the cookie cutter group consciousness. I am "Random" I have to change.
NOT Myers Briggs Meta-Programs: "To keep it simple, this relationship Meta-program relates directly to finding similarities or differences in the way you sort in your mind the information from the outside world. Some people look for how things are the same – sameness or similarities. Others look for how things are different or dissimilar. Most of us – “most” here meaning only more than half – have a combination of both.We may look first at similarities and then notice the differences or vice-versa."
Meta-programs -content free inner filters leads to being automatic and unconscious. These are the filters of how we perceive the world. Remember NOT EVERYONE perceives the world around them in the same way. There are significant differences in behavior from person to person, and the Meta-programs influence and guide our strategies or thinking styles.
the fact that these inner filters are unconscious – so it’s not something you do with volition… and yet, others may have a problem with the way you do things, because their “filtering”may be different from yours.
Here Is How to Find Out What Is Your Relationship Meta-Program
Write down your answers as they come up. Do not stop at one single answer. Write down several answers as you think of them.
You will notice answers:
- Only with similarities - How these three coins are the same.
- See only how they’re all different. How they are dissimilar.
Answers - completely about sameness, you will be happy to stay in the same job, doing the same thing without any change for life. BUT if your partner is filtering information differently from you, s/he could get quite bored with the old and unchanging you. If your boss/manager at work is filtering information differently from you, they will consider you the same old boring person and you may get in trouble for lacking innovation and creativity.
Answers all about differences, every year to a year and a half you will have the need to change things (including your job, or where you live, and maybe even your partner or the way you relate to them).If your partner has a little more need for stability – more sameness – s/he will find this continuous change a little tiring! In fact, it will drive them nuts!
Answers- somewhere in the middle with sameness and differences combined, then first you need to look at the order and then count how many of each you came up with. In this way you will know how much sameness or differences (change) you are prone to accept in your life.
Answers - mostly sameness with little difference, you will be happy in the same job for about 7 years, if you’re sameness with differences equally then you will be happy in the same job 3-5 years and if your answers were mostly differences with a little sameness, then after 18 months to 3 years you will start looking for a change.
Different Meta-programs can create real difficulties in a relationship. Imagine you’re coming home from work only to find all the furniture in the house completely different – changed around or even brand new. Now,you cannot find your sock drawers and have no clue where the glasses are in the kitchen, because meanwhile they’re not in the kitchen anymore, they just moved to the pantry!
Go further with the knowledge...
A person likes everything to stay the same in work, home and relationship. When newness came in it makes a person feel no longer in sync and it is time to move on but don't want to. A person could not follow a rational trail of thought nor produce any behavior that would change anything – it was against his Meta-program.
Thank goodness that meta-programs are not “cast in stone”. In the human mindset: This is your lot in life and there is nothing you can do about it type of thinking. The world is flat and that was the prevalent thinking. If you’re formed in a certain way, there is nothing you can do. This is the way you are, and that’s it!
Another great healing tool that I have found and needs to be brought to your attention is Time Line Therapy® techniques. You can use also Hypnosis and other healing tools.